great post about the necessity of letting go of harmful relationships.

The Hurt Healer

goodbyeoneLooking to the start of a new year can be exciting. It can be the time to plan ahead, and dream of good things to come.

But to make way for new beginnings, it’s important to let go of anything that is going to hinder or harm you. Nobody has an infinite amount of physical time, or emotional energy. So it makes sense to use what we have on relationships that will benefit not drain. That are reciprocal, not a burden.

We all have relationships in our lives that come to a natural end. For whatever reason our contact with that person has run its course. We move on without a sense of loss or pain.

But there are other relationships that we cling to. Or we continue to involve ourselves in, with the hope that there will be a shift in commitment, interest or behaviour. And it’s those interactions…

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Brilliant! 🙂 And I always thought that I had to carry things just because they were heavy….live and learn.

Wandering Bodhi

You know that feeling when you desperately want something to work but it just doesn’t. When you keep trying and trying but things just don’t seem to flow as they should.

It feels heavy, it feels doubtful, it feels confusing, it feels difficult. That’s when you know it’s time to let go.

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I love the way Abraham Hicks describes how a good-feeling relationship should feel. One word… EASE….. Watch the video here

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The 3 reasons for communication breakdown: aggression, repression and denial….

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What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.

~George Levinger

In Psychology Today’s July/August issue, an article called, Advance Warning, discusses why sometimes even couples who seem happy often still end up getting a divorce. Author, Mary Diduch, says UCLA researchers tracked couples for 10 years and found certain patterns that lead to divorce were present from the beginning. Negative characteristics such as: aggression, anger and contempt can sometimes outweigh the the positives: commitment, lack of stress or strengths in personality.

Diduch notes that in the beginning of a marriage, the good times are still outweighing the bad, until eventually, communication breaks down. Three main reason for this: aggression, repression and denial.

Aggression in seemly healthy couples may just boil down to the lack of controlling our tempers. (The article points to husbands, but I…

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The Apology

The power of a sincere apology is transcendental. It kicks off a transformation; a release of pain and burden that has twisted the person whom you have wronged. S/he suddenly becomes more free; more her/himself; more whole.

If you have wronged someone, apologize…out of respect, for yourself and the other.

The Power of Apology – The Health Benefits, etc.

The Apology

How to Apologize Effectively: Responsibility, Restitution, Repentance

How to Apologize to Your Partner

The Power of an Apology to Experience More Loving Relationships – If You Did Something Wrong, Apologize

My Top 10 Ways to Atone

Raised Right – The Apology in a Nutshell

Private vs. Public Apologies – How Not to Apologize

Loneliness

For most of my life I didn’t understand what people meant when they said that they were lonely. I always liked being alone. Then, one day, loneliness hit me from behind and overwhelmed me. I was bewildered to the point of tears. And, perhaps, the strangest thing was that I wasn’t alone.

Here are a few tips, from our fellow bloggers (and a few other places), on how to deal with loneliness and disconnection if you find yourself in a similar situation. Think of it as your loneliness emergency kit.

Loneliness Is Not Alone – loneliness is contagious. Did you catch it from someone else?

Loneliness: Craving a Connection – loneliness when away at school for the first time: life change, associated emotions, what to do

How to Cope with Loneliness

5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

How to Fight Depression and Loneliness without Outside Help

Loneliness in Seniors; Loneliness is a Major Health Issue

Get Over Divorce Loneliness

All By Myself – How to Be Alone – love this what-to-do-when-lonely video

Loneliness – the positive side

P.S. and,  if you’re just feeling blue because you’re alone, remember that being alone may be the best thing that’s happened to you. (That’s the conclusion I came to.) 😀

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Steps

…towards all kinds of important stuff/a few good suggestions.

5 Steps to a Relationship Commitment

10 Steps to Bring More Joy into Your Life

10 Steps to Finding Hope

10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place

10 Dream Steps for Success – How to Bring Your Dreams to Reality

4 Steps to Forgiveness

10 Steps to Peace of Mind

6 Steps to Building Kindness and Resilience in Children

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